Many have said, “Change is difficult.” Here is something I want everyone to remember: Change is NOT difficult…unless and until we equate change with something dangerous or bad. Once your mind is convinced that it is going to be bad or dangerous, your brain literally triggers an alarm that causes you to repel the thought of it. When I ask people, What do you think scares people or makes them uncomfortable in times of change? I generally hear that they are afraid of the unknown.
Let’s consider that for a moment. It is impossible to fear what you don’t know. You can fear only what you think you know. So discomfort with change is always the result of a negative prediction about an outcome that we think change will bring. That, and only that, triggers the discomfort that so many people associate with change. Whether your market is changing, your relationship is changing, your health is changing, or your circumstances in general are changing, know this: You will get through it. The way you get through it is what I want to help you with this month.
Discomfort, fear, or anxiety is always created by an increasing sense of danger and a decreasing sense of your ability to cope with that danger. SO, there are only two ways to deal with it: Decrease the sense of danger or increase your ability to cope. There are six key questions I’d like to challenge you with this month:
1. What is the worst thing that could happen?
2. What is the best thing that could happen?
3. What is the most likely thing that could happen?
Answering those three questions will immediately create a realistic sense of danger. Once those are answered, clearly answer these three questions:
1. What will I do if the worst thing happens?
2. What will I do if the best thing happens?
3. What will I do if the most likely thing happens?
Anxiety must be decreased if the mind knows there is a specific coping plan. So no matter what changes you face in your life, deal with the threat first and the plan second.