Episode Summary
In this episode of Mondays with Mike, host Mike Staver tackles the practical question: “What’s a simple way to identify blind spots in a person?” Drawing from his coaching experience, Mike shares a straightforward approach—don’t accuse, but rather invite awareness by gently asking if someone has noticed a particular behavior. For example, he describes a client who tends to focus on why something can’t be done before considering what is possible. Mike Staver points this out by saying, “Are you aware, or have you ever noticed…?” This opens the door for honest reflection without defensiveness.
He emphasizes that blind spots are often invisible to the person exhibiting them, so the key is to offer observations in a curious, nonjudgmental way instead of labeling it as a “blind spot.” This awareness then allows the person to explore both limitations and potential solutions. Mike encourages listeners to keep asking good questions and to remain open to feedback, reminding everyone that even coaches can misinterpret behaviors, so mutual openness is essential.
Key Takeaways
- The simplest way to point out blind spots is by asking, “Are you aware, or have you ever noticed…?” rather than accusing or labeling.
- Approach blind spots with curiosity and openness—don’t assume your observations are always correct.
- Helping someone become aware of a blind spot should be about expanding their perspective, not assigning blame.
- Invite people to reflect on both what’s holding them back and what resources or strengths could move them forward.
- Good questions unlock better results; fostering honest conversation is crucial to personal development.
Notable Quotes
- “Are you aware or have you ever noticed…?”
- “I just point out the blind spot, but I don’t go, you got a blind spot.”
- “It could be me. I could see a blind spot where they’re not blind.”
- “You want better results, you want to do better, ask better questions.”
Mike Staver is the CEO and Founder of The Staver Group, a proven leadership development firm dedicated to improving organizational performance by closing the gap between intentions and execution. To learn more about working with Mike and The Staver Group, email info@mikestaver.com.
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