Episode Summary
In this episode of Mondays with Mike, host Mike Staver answers a common leadership and personal development question: When is the right time to consider coaching, either for yourself or for someone you manage?
Mike provides a straightforward guideline: coaching is valuable when the results you’re getting don’t align with your intentions. If ongoing effort isn’t translating into the outcomes you want, even when those intentions are clear, it’s a signal that help is needed to close that gap. However, he emphasizes a second crucial factor: don’t seek coaching unless you’re genuinely willing to make the required changes. Mike notes that many people want to improve in areas like health, leadership, or relationships, but lack the true willingness to do the work. Both desire and readiness to act are essential for coaching to be effective.
Listeners are encouraged to reflect honestly on where their intentions and results don’t match up, and reach out for coaching only when they’re prepared to fully engage in the process.
Key Takeaways
- Coaching is most beneficial when there’s a clear gap between your intentions and your results—if you’re not seeing the outcomes you want, it’s time to get help.
- Mere desire to improve isn’t enough; willingness to change and take action is just as important.
- Before seeking coaching, be honest: are you actually ready and willing to do what’s necessary?
- This principle applies both to personal growth and to supporting direct reports as a leader.
Notable Quotes
- “When the results that you’re getting do not match the intentions that you have, that’s when it’s time to get coaching.”
- “You gotta have willingness and want to.”
- “Don’t get a coach unless your intentions match your willing to.”
Mike Staver is the CEO and Founder of The Staver Group, a proven leadership development firm dedicated to improving organizational performance by closing the gap between intentions and execution. To learn more about working with Mike and The Staver Group, email info@mikestaver.com.
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