Episode Summary
In this episode of Mondays with Mike, host Mike Staver addresses a common leadership concern: what if you don’t feel confident enough to lead others?
Mike explains that confidence is not a prerequisite for effective leadership but rather, it’s the result of putting yourself out there and taking action. Drawing from both research and experience, Mike emphasizes that confidence follows behavior, not the other way around. He points out that whether you’re leading, coaching, or learning a new skill, you won’t truly feel confident until you’ve practiced enough to develop competence. Waiting for confidence before acting leads to stagnation; instead, the path forward is to embrace discomfort, seek out coaching or guidance, and keep practicing until confidence naturally develops.
Key Takeaways
- Confidence comes after action, not before—it results from practicing the desired behaviors.
- You’re unlikely to feel confident at the beginning of trying something new, whether it’s leadership, public speaking, or any new skill.
- Waiting to feel confident or motivated before starting will only delay progress.
- Taking action, seeking good coaching, and consistent practice are the keys to building genuine confidence in leadership.
Notable Quotes
- “Confidence comes after the behavior, not before.”
- “You never feel confident until you do the thing enough to achieve mastery.”
- “If you wait to be motivated, if you wait to be confident, you’re going to be waiting a long time.”
- “Do the thing, get good coaching, get good practice, confidence will eventually come.”
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